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SELF HARM Q AND A

THIS IS LIZ. I WROTE HERE LAST WEEK REMEMBER? I AM AN ALTER IN OUR DID SYSTEM. I STRUGGLE WITH SELF HARM, SO I THOUGHT I’D WRITE A LITTLE MORE ON THAT. I GOT THESE QUESTIONS FROM A WORKSHEET AND SO I THOUGHT I’D ANSWER THEM ON HERE. SO HERE GOES.

1. Why do I feel I need to hurt myself?

I FEEL I DESERVE IT, I FEEL WORTHLESS AND LIKE I HAVE TO CUT TO PROVE I AM REAL, TO PROVE THAT I AM ACTUALLY A PERSON WHO HAS EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS.

2. What has brought me to this point?

STRESS, FLASHBACKS, HEARING VOICES, GRIEF

3. Have I been here before?

YES LOTS OF TIMES

4. What did I do to deal with it?

TRIED TO USE MY COPING SKILLS, JOURNALED, PETTED MY DOG, CUT WHEN I COULDNT RESIST, WENT TO THE HOSPITAL, CALLED MY FRIENDS OR THERAPIST

5. How did I feel then?

TRAPPED, STRESSED, OUT OF CONTROL, UNHAPPY, EMPTY, EMOTIONAL, NUMB, ANGRY

6. What I have done to ease this discomfort so far?

BLOGGED, CALLED A FRIEND, EMAILED MY THERAPIST, ATE SOME FOOD, TOOK A BATH, DRANK A COLD DRINK, LISTENED TO A BOOK, TRIED TO RELAX WITH MUSIC AND DEEP BREATHING

7. What else can I do that won’t hurt me?

DO EMAIL, TAKE SOME MEDS, LISTEN TO A PODCAST, WRITE A POEM, MAKE A YOUTUBE VIDEO, TRY TO SLEEP…

8. How do I feel right now?

RIGHT NOW? HMMMM, ANXIOUS, TIRED, STRESSED, FRUSTRATED

9.

How will I feel when I am hurting myself? (If you decide to answer this question please put it in a hide box as content maybe triggering)

I WILL FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF. I WILL FEEL IN CONTROL. I WILL FEEL NOTICED, AND LIKE I AM A SOMEBODY

10. How will I feel after hurting myself?

LIKE SHIT PROBABLY

11. How will I feel tomorrow morning?

BETTER THAN I DID TODAY I HOPE. LESS ANGRY OR FRUSTRATED. MORE IN CONTROL I HOPE.

12. Can I avoid this stressor, or deal with it better in the future?

I CANT AVOID GRIEF STRESS ANGER…THEY ARE ALL PART OF LIFE, SO THE ANSWER IS SIMPLY NO. JUST GOT TO TRY MY BEST TO DEAL WITH WHAT LIFE THROWS AT ME.

13. Do I need to hurt myself?

IM NOT SURE. PART OF ME WANTS TO SAY YES. PART OF ME DOESNT. SO FOR NOW I CHOOSE NOT TO HURT MYSELF. I CHOOSE TO DISTRACT AND USE MY COPING SKILLS INSTEAD. I WONT SAY NEVER THOUGH, AS MY FEELINGS CHANGE FROM HOUR TO HOUR ON WHAT I WANT TO DO OR WHETHER I SHOULD DO IT OR NOT.

WELL THIS WAS A GOOD EXERCISE AND I AM GLAD I DECIDED TO TRY IT OUT.

LIZ

Get to know me, Q and A

Is there anything you wished would come back into fashion? I’m not really in to fashion.

Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Extravert
Which of the five senses would you say is your strongest? M y hearing, my dad says I’d hear grass grow lol
Have you ever had a surprise party? (that was an actual surprise) Not that I remember
Are you related or distantly related to anyone famous? No
What do you do to keep fit? Try to go on my treadmill or go for walks with my dog.
Does your family have a motto spoken or unspoken? No but does knowing everybodys business count?
If you were ruler of your own country what would be the first law you would introduce? I’d introduce a law fining people for using the disabled parking permits where they’re not disabled.
Who was your favorite teacher in school and why? Didn’t really have one
What three things do you think of the most each day? If today is going to be a good day, what is the weather gonna be like today, what do I have going on appointment wise today
If you had a warning label, what would yours say? Caution, next mood swing in sixty seconds.
What song would you say best sums you up? pink try

What celebrity would you like to meet at Starbucks for a cup of coffee? adena menzel
Who was your first crush? my friend marie

What’s the most interesting thing you can see out of your office or kitchen window? My garden
On a scale of 1-10 how funny would you say you are? 10 lol
Where do you see yourself in 10 years? Who knows!
What was your first job? an office job
If you could join any past or current music group which would you want to join? I’d like to go sing in the west end
How many languages do you speak? 3 french and irish and english
What is your favorite family holiday tradition? Opening a present on Christmas Eve.
Who is the most intelligent person you know? my thereapist and psychiatrist
If you had to describe yourself as an animal, which one would it be? lion, fiercely protective of those I love
What is one thing you will never do again? Take an overdose, hopefully.
Who knows you the best? my girl friend Jess, my therapist and my psychiatrist.

Get to know me…part one

Who is your hero? my grandfather. He’s dying and he continues to be positive and upbeat.
If you could live anywhere, where would it be? America, it is my dream to move there eventually
What is your biggest fear? Abandonment/Rejection
What is your favorite family vacation? When we went to disneyland paris or else new york
What would you change about yourself if you could? my height i’d like to be taller, my weight i’d like to be thinner.
What really makes you angry? rude people, people who hurt kids or animals, being misunderstood
What motivates you to work hard? I’m a very last minute person and I work well under pressure, but when I am passionate about something I get really motivated!
What is your favorite thing about your career? N/A
What is your biggest complaint about your job? no job
What is your proudest accomplishment? training with nitro, getting a diploma, so many things make me proud
What is your child’s proudest accomplishment? N/A
What is your favorite book to read? any true memoirs about people who struggle with mental illness, non fiction books are more interesting to me than fiction ones
What makes you laugh the most? when i watch old youtube videos of me and my girlfriend goofing around, they always bring a smile to my face, other than that its nitros antics.
What was the last movie you went to? What did you think? i havent been to the movies in ages. I cant even remember what the last one I saw was.
What did you want to be when you were small? A singer
What does your child want to be when he/she grows up? N/A
If you could choose to do anything for a day, what would it be? Be happy, hang out with friends
What is your favorite game or sport to watch and play? Board games or word games
Would you rather ride a bike, ride a horse, or drive a car? ride a horse
What would you sing at Karaoke night? my heart will go on from titanic
What two radio stations do you listen to in the car the most? Two pop stations
Which would you rather do: wash dishes, mow the lawn, clean the bathroom, or vacuum the house? wash dishes
If you could hire someone to help you, would it be with cleaning, cooking, or yard work? Cleaning
If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be? Right now, chicken curry
Who is your favorite author? Cathy Glass
Have you ever had a nickname? What is it? Shirl or shir amongst others

155 things you didnt know about me!

1: Full name- Shirley Majella Catherine Healy
2: Zodiac sign- aries
3: 3 Fears- wasps, abandonment, not being believed
4: 3 things I love: my dog, my girlfriend, my niece and nephew
5: 4 turns on-a bubbly personality, sense of humour, someone who laughs at my jokes, a good listener
6: 4 turns off- 1. Dishonesty. 2. Arrogance 3. Vanity. 4. Being superficial
7: My best friend-rose from the basement club or my sister
8: Sexual orientation- gay
9: My best first date-a date in springfield in illinois, not saying more lol.

10: How tall am I- 5’1″
11: What do I miss- Right now this month, warm weather
12: What time were I born- I dont actually know
13: Favourite color- Pink
14: Do I have a crush- Celebrities yeah, real life no
15: Favourite quote-If you cant dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bullshit

16: Favourite place- Disneyworld
17: Favourite food-chilli cheese fries or a chilli cheese burger

18: Do I use sarcasm- yes
19: What am I listening to right now-the radio

20: First thing I notice in new person- sense of humour
21: Shoe size- 5
22: Eye color- hazel
23: Hair color- brown
24: Favourite style of clothing- comfortable or pajamas
25: Ever done a prank call?- Probably as a teenager
26: What colour of underwear Im wearing now?- lol not sure i just grabbed any pair hahaha
27: Meaning behind my blog URL- it relates to my being multiple hence manymults.
28: Favourite movie- I now pronounce you chuck and larry or the color purple
29: Favourite song- Right now, Uptown Funk Bruno Mars
30: Favourite band- blue october
31: How I feel right now- pretty good
32: Someone I love-my mom, sister, therapist, dr barry, my girlfriend

33: My current relationship status- taken
34: My relationship with my parents- complicated
35: Favourite holiday- xmas
36: Tattoos and piercing i have- pierced ears
37: Tattoos and piercing i want- tattoo on my arm or shoulder of a butterfly or dolphin

38: The reason I joined Tumblr- I stole this thing from Tumblr, I started a blog as a place to be real
39: Do I and my last ex hate each other?- I don’t hate her because I dont have a last X.
40: Do I ever get good morning or good night texts? Yes
41: Have I ever kissed the last person you texted? No
42: When did I last hold hands? Too long ago sigh, wish I saw my girlfriend more often but unfortunately we live too far apart
43: How long does it take me to get ready in the morning? 5 minutes or less
44: Have I shaved my legs in the past three days? no
45: Where am I right now? Sitting at my desk on my computer .
46: If I were drunk & cant stand, whos taking care of me? I don’t drink too often but when I do I tend to not get totally out of it so nobody has to take care of me
47: Do I like my music loud or at a reasonable level? I use to like it loud to drown out my thoughts, now I like it reasonable
48: Do I live with my Mom and Dad? no I live alone
49: Am I excited for anything? yeah I get excited easily and then disappointed just as easily
50: Do I have someone of the opposite sex I can tell everything to? No
51: How often do I wear a fake smile? too often
52: When was the last time I hugged someone? Last week, I hugged my therapist
53: What if the last person I kissed was kissing someone else right in front of me? I’m not sure how I’d feel
54: Is there anyone I trust even though I should not? Yes
55: What is something I disliked about today? I had to clean my house
56: If I could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be? Oprah winfrey or nelson mandella
57: What do I think about most? Deep existential questions
58: Whats my strangest talent? Cracking my wrists lol

59: Do I have any strange phobias? I have none
60: Do I prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it? in front of it lol
61: What was the last lie I told? I told my mom I’d showered when I hadnt
62: Do I prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online? phone I think
63: Do I believe in ghosts? How about aliens? I do believe in ghosts, I dont believe in aliens
64: Do I believe in magic? yes
65: Do I believe in luck? yes
66: Whats the weather like right now? It’s cool outside.
67: What was the last book Ive read? mummy told me not to tell by cathy glass

68: Do I like the smell of gasoline? No, I hate it.
69: Do I have any nicknames? Shirl, munchie
70: What was the worst injury Ive ever had? I’ve never broken anything thankfully, I always only got minor injurys.
71: Do I spend money or save it? Both
72: Can I touch my nose with a tongue? No
73: Is there anything pink in 10 feets from me? Yes, a pink hot water bottle cover
74: Favourite animal? Random: horse. Pet: dogs
75: What was I doing last night at 12 AM? sleeping
76: What do I think is Satans last name is? I don’t know
77: Whats a song that always makes me happy when I hear it? I knew I loved you by savage garden

78: How can you win my heart? Do thoughtful things for me
79: What would I want to be written on my tombstone? I prefer to be cremated.
80: What is my favorite word? when someone asks how I am, I reply, I’m grand!
81: My top 5 blogs on wordpress? I can’t narrow it down to 5.
82: If the whole world were listening to me right now, what would I say? Hello, I have a mental illness, and that does not make me a nonster, I am a person, just like you. Treat me as such.
83: Do I have any relatives in jail? not currently
84: I accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and whats even cooler is that they endow me with the super-power of my choice! What is that power? Invisibility
85: What would be a question Id be afraid to tell the truth on? How much kid stuff we actually have in our home even though we do have littles..
86: What is my current desktop picture? a photo of me with my niece as a baby
87: Had sex? Yes
88: Bought condoms? No
89: Gotten pregnant? No
90: Failed a class? No
91: Kissed a boy? Yes
92: Kissed a girl? Yes
93: Have I ever kissed somebody in the rain? No
94: Ever had a job? yes worked for a while in social work.
95: Left the house without my wallet? yeah have done that lots of times!
96: Bullied someone on the internet? no
97: Had sex in public? no
98: Played on a sports team? as a kid, I did swimming and gymnastics
99: Smoked weed? no
100: Did drugs? no
101: Smoked cigarettes? no
102: Drank alcohol? yep
103: Am I a vegetarian/vegan? no
104: Been overweight? yes, currently
105: Been underweight? yes, as a teen
106: Been to a wedding? just a few,
107: Been on the computer for 5 hours straight? probably not,
108: Watched TV for 5 hours straight? yes definitely
109: Been outside my home country? yes, america, france, england and spain

110: Gotten my heart broken? Yes
111: Been to a professional sports game? no I am not into sport.
112: Broken a bone? Nope
113: Cut myself? yes
114: Been to prom? we dont have prom in Ireland.
115: Been in airplane? yep
116: Fly by helicopter? no
117: What concerts have I been to? westlife, beyonce, and the cherios childline concerrt.
118: Had a crush on someone of the same sex? yes
119: Learned another language? yes: Spanish, and a little French
120: Wore make up? very rarely
121: Lost my virginity before I was 18? no unless your counting abuse
122: Had oral sex? yes
123: Dyed my hair? Purple in high school
124: Voted in a presidential election? yes
125: Rode in an ambulance? yes, inpatient hospitalizations
126: Had a surgery? yes overies removed and gall bladder removal
127: Met someone famous? Yes at concerts
128: Stalked someone on a social network? Sort of
129: Peed outside? Yes
130: Been fishing? Nope

131: Helped with charity? yes
132: Been rejected by a crush? yes
133: Broken a mirror? yes
134: What do I want for birthday? a party and to have fun and not be in hospital for it like I was last year.
135: How many kids do I want and what will be their names? 4 two boys and two girls named emily, brook, tristan, ethan
136: Was I named after anyone? My moms best friend
137: Do I like my handwriting? I dont write as am blind
138: What was my favourite toy as a child? my baby doll that was life sized like a real baby
139: Favourite Tv Show? Glee or law and order SVU
140: Where do I want to live when older? In america
141: Play any musical instrument? i played piano as a kid and I also played recorder and tin whistle
142: One of my scars, how did I get it? Most from self harm, surgery scars too
143: Favourite pizza toping? anything hot and spicy
144: Am I afraid of the dark? sometimes
145: Am I afraid of heights? nope
146: Have I ever got caught sneaking out or doing anything bad? not really
147: Have I ever tried my hardest and then gotten disappointed in the end? yes lots of time
148: What Im really bad at? asking too many questions of people sometimes
149: What my greatest achievments are? Staying alive, going to college, qualifying with Nitro

150: The meanest thing somebody has ever said to me. Invalidated my feelings
151: What Id do if I won in a lottery. Donate a lot to charity, travel
152: What do I like about myself. I’m generous and thoughtful.
153: My closest wordpress friend. WordPress, bourbon, Marcie, and paola, Cat, Kat, lots of other kind people who always read my blog too many to mention
154: Something I fantasise about? Lets not go there
155: Any question youd like: How many people read this through to the end and are still reading lol.

25 get to know me q and A

1. What is your middle name?:
My middle name is Majella. My mom named me after her friends. Both of my names, our legal names, that is come from friends of our moms.
2. What was your favorite subject at school?
English. I loved writing and I still do today. People say I’m good at it too. Not sure I am though.
3. What is your favorite drink?:
Hmmm, well I’m a big coffee and tea drinker. Not iced tea, hot tea. I like anything starbux or costa brands. I’m also a big coke and pepsi drinker.
4 . What is your favorite song at the moment?:
Well I like all the latest hits. That is my favourite ttype of music, the latest chart toppers and top 40 genre. Some of the songs I currently like are sia chandelier, megan trainer lips are movin, and all about that base, ed sheran thinking out loud.
5. What is your favorite food?:
I like pasta. Especially spaghetti bolognes or lasagna. I also love pizza the hotter the better.
6. What is the last thing you bought?:
Today I bought my groceries and some carrot cake and a cappachino for me and my mom.
7 .. Favorite book of all time?:
I love reading. I’ve always loved reading. I think one of my favourite books of all time was the twilight series, or any of the cathy glass books. I also liked the torey hayden books.
8. Favorite Color?:
My favourite colour is pink. I’m a girly sorta girl lol.
9. Do you have any pets?:
Yes. My guide dog. I know guide dogs arent really supposed to be considered a pet, but he’s my furbaby. I love him to pieces. I think he’s the cutest dog on earth and there is no dog cuter than him.
10. Favorite Perfume?:
Oh my there are so many I like. I like cool water, sunkissed glo, flowers, tommy girl, romance by ralph lauren, cocoa channel, lots and lots. All expensive too haha.
11. Favorite Holiday?:
One year I went to disneyworld in florida, that was totally amazing. I actually have been there twice. I went with my partner both times.
12. Are you married?:
No, I’m a lesbian. One day I’d love to marry my partner.
13. Have you ever been out of the country, if so how many times?:
Yes a lot of times. Too many to count. I’ve been to england, france, spain and the USA.
14. Do you speak any other language?:
I speak a little french, but its rusty, I learned french at school. I also have a couple of words of spanish. I also have my native irish language somewhat thats a little rusty too though.
15. How many siblings do you have?:
I have one sister. She’s almost 26. I’m the eldest in our family at 34 body age.
16. What is your favorite shop?:
Any store that sells apple products, or other techy stuff, I’m a bit of a geek lol. I also like big retail stores that sell things like clothes cds and dvds, perfume, all sorts packed into one store.
17. Favorite restaurant?:
I like nandos. I also like abra cadabra.
18. When was the last time you cried?:
At my psychiatrist appointment the other day. I got emotional talking about abuse during my teens years.
19. Favorite Blog?:
I have so many. A few of my favourites are I was a foster kid, crazy in the coconut, and marcie mental health and more
20 Favourite movie?
My fave movie is I now pronounce you chuck and larry. Its hilarious. I laughed so hard when I went to see it. I remember me and my partner went to the midnight showing of it and we were in convultions of laughter. Well worth watching if you can.
21. Favorite TV shows?:
I like law and order SVU, and true crime documentaries. I also like lots of reality shows like x factor, american idol etc. I also like medical shows and real life court shows.
22. PC or Mac?
Well right now I dont use a mac. But I really want one. I use an ipad and ipod and iphone. My goal is to use all apple products soon.
23. What phone do you have?:
I have the I phone 6. I absolutely adore it. It helps me so much. It can do so much for blind people. There are so many aps that help me.
24. How tall are you?:
I am 5 foot 1 inch tall. So pretty short. Its annoying when my pants trail the floor because my legs are too short. Other than that though I dont mind being small. What is it they say, good things come in small packages, lol.
25 Can you cook?
I can kind of cook. I can put thing to cook in an oven, like follow instructions. I am not a good cook when it comes to baking though or cooking things from scratch. I have to get help with that. My goal is to try to work on that this year.