I’ve just finished an absolutely terrific book written by Cathy glass. It was called will you love me and it tells the story of Lucy, who Cathy fostered and eventually adopted.
Its written in two parts. Part one tells the story of Lucy’s early life. It goes from when she was a baby up until she was placed with Cathy at age 11. Part two tells the story of Lucys time with Cathy, from when she was placed up until permanency and eventually adoption.
Lucy was severely neglected by her mother from very early on in her life. She spent time living on the streets and in many different flats and houses with multiple carers. These included her mothers long term boyfriend and a string of his girlfriends. During the time these people cared for Lucy they severely neglected her and abused her.
Eventually when she came to live with Cathy she didnt trust anyone, having sought help from the social services only to feel they’d failed her because they didnt save her earlier in her life, and they kept moving her from foster home to foster home.
After months of living with Cathy and her family, she started to settle down. At first when she lived with Cathy her behaviour was really bad and she was very angry and had regular anger outbursts. She also hated all social workers and refused to see her social worker every time she would visit.
After a few months of fostering Lucy, Cathy applied to have her live with her permanently. But her application was turned down, because Lucys social worker believed that Cathy couldnt meet Lucys cultural needs “Lucys father was from thailand”. However after a change of social worker, and at a subsequent review the application went ahead and after a lot of months Lucy got to live with Cathy permanently.
10 months later, Lucy asked Cathy to adopt her. Subsequently this happened after her mother was informed and agreed. Throughout the book Lucys mother kept disappearing and as I said would leave Lucy with her boyfriend or strangers. Then when she went to live with Cathy, some contact resumed. However her mother was a drink and drug user and also suffered from depression so contact only took place infrequently.
I really enjoyed the book. Its very sad in parts but also very hopeful. It also shows the inadequacies of the foster care system and social services. It also shows that no matter where a child comes from, with love and the right kind of care and a proper family they can be helped and overcome their traumatic past. I’d highly recommend it to anyone who is a foster parent, trainer, social work student, or anyone who has an interest in foster care or adoption.